Photographing Kids Who Won't Sit Still

If your kid has never held still for more than four seconds, you're not behind. You're normal.

Parents often start a family session with an apology. "He won't sit still." "She'll run the other way." "We've never gotten one good photo of all of us."

Here's my answer: good. Running, crouching, digging, wandering off. That's the material.

Stop asking them to look at the camera. The "say cheese" photo is the one every kid has learned to perform. The photo you'll still love in twenty years usually has a child looking at something else entirely: a handful of sand, a dog, their own shoes.

Give them something to do, not something to pose for. Walk to the water. Find the biggest rock. Race to the tree. A kid with a job stops performing, and that's when their face does the thing you actually recognize.

Keep sessions short and let the energy lead. Kids have about forty-five good minutes in them, and some days it's twenty. I'd rather stop while everyone's still having fun than push for one more frame.

Expect a slow start. The first ten minutes are often wiggly, shy, or all behind a parent's leg. That's not a failed session. It's a warm-up.

I get down to their level and give them room. Photos shot from above make kids look small. Photos shot from where they are make them look like themselves. And a little distance means they forget I'm there.

Your calm sets the tone. Kids read their parents' stress instantly. If you're not worried about the photos, they won't be either. Let the chaos in. It's usually the best part.

The photo at the top of this post is my daughter as a toddler, crouched in the sand, completely absorbed. She wasn't looking at me. She wasn't posing. I wouldn't trade it for a hundred smiling-at-the-lens frames.

If you've got a kid who won't sit still, you're exactly who I like photographing. Let's talk about your family.